On Saving Those Not Worthy of Your Save

It's the year of someone's Lord 2025 and a whole bunch of y'all are still out here trying to "get through to" hateful, willfully ignorant bigots, hoping to convert them.

Oh, Bro, Broseph, Bro-ham.

Oh, Sister, Sis, Ma'am.

Oh, my friend, my compadre, my peoples.

Y'all gotta stop with the tryin' to save these people.

To paraphrase light-skinned Jermaine, they don't wanna be saved.

People are defending Diddy and Tory Lanez out here, and trying to shame and ridicule those they've harmed. You can't save anybody that deeply enmeshed in that level of misogynoir.

There's a whole bunch of [redacted] people mad that Black folx are happy about the Nottaway Plantation roasting 'til the meat fell off the bone who have the audacity to call it a historical landmark and say tasteless nonsense like, "How would you feel if Auschwitz burned down like this?" You think you're gonna save someone who spews something so simultaneously anti-Black and anti-semetic that it'll make your head spin off of your neck?

There are millions of people who have spent the last 12 years voting for this current administration, knowing damn well what they were backing. Many of them are gleeful about the harm y'all's president and his Dollar General Batman villains are doing to communities across this country, including their own communities. You can't save somebody whose hatred for others is so powerful that they're willing to fall on their own sword multiple times to justify their hatred.

The past 12+ years in this country have made it clear - explicitly clear - that it's time to leave some people behind. If you haven't pivoted already, consider this your notice to turn around and walk away from hateful people and their unflinching toxicity. Focus your energies on the folx in your life and community that need support, because those are the folx who deserve your help and care.

Everybody ain't worth savin', regardless of their relation or degrees of separation from you and yours.

Hate doesn't deserve so much of your love.

This Week's Opening Thought: May 12, 2025

This week's opening thought: Two things that I can always rely on with people of pallor is that 1) they will always say/do the quiet part out loud, and 2) they will make up any narrative they can to "protect" their own.

Melanated refugees seeking asylum for safety reasons? Nope. Y'all's president placed an indefinite suspension on refugee resettlement in the U.S. because he insists that they're "eating the dogs and cats" or MS-13 or flooding in from the insane asylums and mental institutions and harming *cough* white *cough* U.S. Americans. Not true, but when has that stopped people of pallor in power?

So, no refugees are currently welcome in the U.S....except for select refugees of pallor, of course. Case in point: a plane full of fragile-ass pale South Afrikaners, descended from Dutch people who subjugated, enslaved, harmed, oppressed, and killed Black South Africans for a damn generation, landed in D.C. today and received a warm welcome.

Now you might be asking yourself, "Are they in danger?" followed by "Why are they getting an exemption when so many people in need aren't?" And, on the surface, that's a solid pair of questions. But if you're asking yourself those questions, you're likely a person of pallor who has somehow missed how white supremacy works, especially when people of pallor are scared that their power is slipping away in an ever-changing populace that ain't playin' their colonizer games anymore.

According to y'all's president, these South Afrikaners are "victims of unjust racial discrimination." Mind you, the average household of pallor in South Africa owns 20 times the wealth of the average Black household, according to the Review of Political Economy, an international academic journal, but they are definitely "victims of unjust racial discrimination." You see, South Africa passed a land law earlier this year that aims to make it easier for the state to expropriate land in the public interest. Although no land has been seized by South Africa's government, the South Afrikaners are freaking out and in pure victim mode, mainly because they "own" a whole lot of stolen land they've "inherited" from their crappy ancestors, people who had no right to it in the first place. Hence y'all's president, likely at the prompting of Elon Musk but also because he sees dollar signs and pallor-derived generational wealth, making a large, concerted effort to resettle wealthy South Afrikaners in the United States.

So let's take a moment to break this down, shall we?

Black South Africans who have a right to their land are the villains because they want to take steps to expropriate their land. Not all of it, mind you, but probably enough to take care of Black South Africans and narrow the wealth and ownership gaps. And these dusty South Afrikaners are "resilient", "victims," and "oppressed."

It's enough to make you want to take a damn nap.

Pallor "protecting" pallor.

So predictable and weak.

On Tyre Nichols, Policing, and Policing While Black

TW: Police brutality, murder, anti-Blackness.

The Tyre Nichols verdict shows you how policing systems, police officers, and laws surrounding accountability in white supremacist countries ensure the safety of police officers from accountability for doing heinous things, skin color be damned.

To be Black and willingly complicit in systems of harm and inequity that oppress Black people is to make a choice on the kind of Black person you want to be.

Blackness ain't a monolith.

But policing sure as hell is.

On Hate, Bigotry, The Hold They Have on People, and Not Having Hobbies or Interests

I often think about the amount of energy that goes into being an absolutely hateful person. Like, think about how much time hateful people spend ruminating about communities and groups they hate. To hate someone based on their skin color, non-Christian religious beliefs, gender identity, gender expression, ethnocultural heritage...and to devote copious amounts of time - to devote chunks of your lifetime - to harassing and attacking said communities and groups in every space you can find...

You ain't got NOTHING else to do?

No interests, hobbies, or passions outside of your hatred for others?

Like, there are folx out there right now literally spending thousands of hours targeting folx who are minding their business, living their lives, doing nothing to them and for what? What do they have to show for it, outside of successfully fomenting their unwarranted phobias and isms? It's not like they're getting any joy out of it. It's not filling a void in their lives, or giving them a leg up on anyone, or making their lives better. Studies have shown that it's not even providing a momentary satisfaction for them when they do it.

What's the point, other than to live your life as an antagonist that thinks you're better than others?

They don't even realize that their insecurities are on display every time they do what they do, and that we all have to live with the fallout of their unwillingness to unpack their sh-- with a therapist.

Think about how preposterous and useless it is to dedicate so much of your time and energy to attacking trans folx, Black and Brown folx, communities of color, queer communities, non-Christian folx, who ain't even thinkin' about you.

You could be building boats in bottles or doin' needle point but instead you out here trolling people for hours on social media or going out of your way to be in a space with people you claim to not want to be around.

What a waste of time and life.

This Week's Opening Thought: May 5, 2025

This week's opening thought: Shiloh Hendrix went viral for calling a 5-year-old Black boy with autism the N-word. After being recorded last week apparently admitting that she had hurled the racist slur at a 5-year-old Black child in a park and getting rightfully dragged and dogwalked online, Shiloh's racist ass started a crowdfunding campaign on the MAGA-friendly crowdfunding platform GiveSendGo. On the crowdfunding site, Shiloh said she was trying to raise $1 million to deal with what she calls “great turmoil” in her life following the incident. Her plea for help from the top of her crowdfunding page:

"My name is Shiloh and I have been put into a very dire situation. I recently had a kid steal from my 18-month old son's diaper bag at a park. I called the kid out for what he was. Another man, who we recently found out has had a history with law enforcement, proceeded to record me and follow me to my car. He then posted these videos online which has caused my family, and myself, great turmoil. My SSN has been leaked. My address, and phone number have been given out freely. My family members are being attacked. My eldest child may not be going back to school. Even where I exercise has been exposed."

First things first, no one doxxed this woman. That's a lie. Her whole recollection of the events is a lie, but you likely knew it was when you read the blurb. But guess what? Lying means nothing when you're a person of pallor, a race with a culture of wading in the waters of a never-ending victim complex. So, "poor" Shiloh screamed out for help from her fellow white supremacists to "relocate for her and her family's safety." And guess what?

As of Monday afternoon, Shiloh's crowdfunding page showed her as having raised $680,427, because, as many of them have alluded to after donating money to her campaign, "She did nothing wrong," and "they have to protect their own!" But here's the kicker, y'all: SHE'S ENGAGED TO A BLACK MAN.

Yep. Out here just callin' people's babies the N-word and takin' MAGA money while marryin' into the very culture she hates.

You can't make this sh-- up, y'all.

Y'all are a whole mess, people of pallor. A whole mess and a manipulative, unrepentant threat to everyone, including other people of pallor.