On Seeking Forgiveness and Being Undeserving Of It

It's funny how people didn't care that their vote would increase the cost of or outright eliminate healthcare options, terrorize communities with masked bootleg police and the U.S. military, devastate the job market, increase the cost of living, and dismantle and eliminate food assistance programs and other social services for millions of people because they somehow thought that Black folx, Brown folx, Indigenous folx, trans folx, and immigrants would be the only people harmed...until they found themselves also being hurt because, you know, all of the things mentioned above impact everyone and not just a couple of communities voters felt were expendable and disposable.

It's also funny how these same voters begged and pleaded like Keith Sweat for their president to save them for months on end, only to realize late last month that they would not be saved because their president had essentially used them to increase his wealth and power.

Hilarious.

Now, suddenly, it's y'all begging forgiveness on TikTok and Instagram for "mistakenly" voting for y'all's president (some of y'all in the last three presidential elections) and putting us in this autocracy.

Now it’s, "I made a mistake" and "We have to stick together."

Y'all can miss me with all of that.

I can care about you as a person, even if you don't care about me and mine, because I don't want to see anyone hurting and struggling. I'm a humanist and an empathic being. Even if you hate me, I want you to be okay. But let's keep it 100: you did not make a mistake. You knew what you were doing. All of you did. So nah, we are not "sticking together." I do not forgive, and I definitely will not forget.

Y'all need to learn that empathy only goes so far.

I do not have it in me to forgive you for willingly hoping others would suffer so you could thrive under a hateful regime. And I know I'm not the only one feeling this way.

Y'all expect people you harm to forgive you because you live in a country where white supremacy has trained y'all to abuse others and expect forgiveness. It ain't happenin' this time, and a bunch of y'all are starting to see this, and you're unraveling. A part of me feels sorry for you, for your despair. But it's a small part, because y'all have made it very clear that this was supposed to be your "survival of the fittest" moment and you're realizing that a whole bunch of y'all ain't the fittest. And knowing that probably sucks. But...well...

I hope that you survive what you've inflicted on all of us, because that's what I want for everyone. And most of y'all will survive because of the work and community programs created and led by the people you were hoping would be harmed by all of this. But that's all that you'll get from me, and all you should get from them. That's more than enough. And if you have a problem with hearing that?

Better go and embrace some of that greatness you voted for to keep you fed and wealthy while "liberals" decide whether to help y'all at all.

Nationwide Food Assistance Resources

Taking a moment this morning to share a variety of nationwide food assistance resource hubs. Please share this information with your networks and communities. Share them with your co-workers and HR. Be willing to be the person who can look up, print out, and download resource information for people in your orbit.

Be in community. We all we got.

Find free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, healthcare, and more: www.findhelp.org

Find a local food bank in your area: www.feedingamerica.org/need-help-find-food and https://foodfinder.us/

Find a community fridge in your area: www.freedge.org and www.changex.org/ca/communityfridge/locations

Find a Little Free Pantry in your area: https://www.littlefreepantry.org/

Find a mutual aid network providing food assistance in your area: www.mutualaidhub.org

On Polka Dot Dresses and Doing Anything But Actually Doing Something

Let's see...safety pins, vagina hats, blue bracelets, pink suits, and now?

Polka dot dresses.

Because why stand up, go outside, and physically be about that life like the female New Yorker in the polka dot dress who tussled with ICE agents Tuesday when an ICE sweep triggered protests on Manhattan’s Canal Street, when you can just cosplay as her and post pictures on social media of yourself with captions like "IYKYK"?

Oh, cishet women of pallor. The performative "clothing and accessories as a form of resistance" thing just never, ever ends with y'all, does it?

Geezus Kristo.

Accessorizing is NOT an act of resistance. Wearing a piece of clothing is NOT an act of resistance. But you know what? It is a great signal for the rest of us to clock your performative nonsense while knowing not to trust you or expect you to be ten toes down for a real, tangible, physical act of resistance in these streets.

And real talk? Some of y'all ain't got the skin tone to pull off polka dots.

You can sip that tea however you see fit.

On SNAP, Your Friends, Your Neighbors, and You Being Cold as Ice

Come November 1, millions of people in the United States will see their ongoing struggle to survive and afford groceries in a disintegrating economy increase tenfold, as the federal government shutdown has ensured that no one will be receiving SNAP benefits. In a year that has already been an uphill climb up a mountain of quicksand and bramble bushes for millions of families, this is like someone at the top of said mountain throwing barrels down at you like Donkey Kong.

Now, before one of y'all chimes in with glee about people you think are "mooching off the system" and being happy that families, children, senior citizens, people with disabilities - hell, anyone - could starve and die I want you to 1) go take a long walk and call up a therapist to figure out and unpack who hurt you to the point where starvation makes you giggle like the Pillsbury doughboy, 2) prepare for your comment to be deleted as well as being added to my block list, and 3) recognize that government assistance isn't some mooching operation as you've decided to believe.

Your friends, neighbors, and colleagues who go to work every damn day are gettin' SNAP benefits too, you cold bastard. And you don't have a clue because you've proven to be someone they can't trust to care about their wellbeing so they have to keep their needs private while being made self-conscious of their need for assistance by the words and actions of people like you.

The Center on Budget and Policy Priorities (CBBP) released data in January 2025 that shared the following statistics:

- In 2024, over 38% of households receiving SNAP benefits nationally included at least one working family member.
- For SNAP households with children, 55% had earned income in 2023 (2023 is the most recent data available because why do the work to keep accurate statistics on something like this?).

The CBBP also made sure to emphasize that while the percentage of households with a working family member is significant, data snapshots often undercount how many SNAP participants worked over the course of a year, as job market volatility and other factors lead many folx to cycle in and out of jobs. Studies have also shown that non-disabled working-age adults who can work do so, and many rely on SNAP only for temporary support. The CBBP also emphasized that many workers, particularly those in low-wage or service and sales jobs that are impacted by seasonal fluctuations or the health of the economy, rely on SNAP benefits to supplement their income and help afford groceries.

So instead of havin' a good laugh about the misery of others, maybe take a minute to dispel your ridiculously racist and bigoted notions of welfare and government assistance and keep your thoughts to your damn self.

If you're not going to contribute to supporting others and showing up as a empathic human being then do us all a favor and contribute to reducing noise pollution while the rest of us work our asses off to assist others in a time of crisis.

On "No Kings" and Actually Doing Something

So there was a big ol' national "No Kings" rally this past weekend. And you know what? Some respect for people who showed up, marched, made signs, and wanted to be in solidarity with like-minded people who aren't ok with *gestures wildly* EVERYTHING happening in the United States right now. You wanted to stand up and be counted among those who are against authoritarianism, hate, and oppression. Cool. But real talk? I always find myself asking people who attend these mass protests the same questions.

What organizations had a hand in organizing your local protest? Did you get information from those orgs for how you can volunteer time, money, supplies, or other resources to their causes?

How many resource guides and informational pamphlets, booklets, or flyers did you get at the rally? Have you scanned those documents in and shared them with others?

Did you leave the "No Kings" rally with some idea of how you'd like to focus your time and energy for the next few months or year? Did you leave with a clear idea of something you can dive into right now, something tangible, that you can take action with today?

Now, when I ask questions like this, of course certain people *cough* people of pallor *cough* get agitated. Evidently, I'm a hater or "not down for the cause" when I ask people what their plans are post-flashy social media-worthy rally experience. But guess what? That's the actual purpose of a protest rally, dude.

Seriously.

The purpose of a protest rally is to gather in solidarity while learning about tangible ways you can actively engage in social activism and do your part in addressing human rights issues in your community.

You know, volunteering your time and energy and putting your skills to use on particular issues in your community.

You know, ACTUAL community organizing and engagement.

You know, not just spending 10 hours on a sign that'll sit in your closet gathering dust until the next "No Kings" rally where you'll rinse and repeat with no tangible actions taken on your part to be actively engaged in pursuing change.

But OK, I guess I'm a hater for expecting substance over style.

C'est la vie.