On Delores, Cesar, and Doing It For "The Culture"

TW: Mentions of sexual abuse, predatory actions.

The Venn diagram of sexual abuse, power, and societal and cultural constructs of masculinity and “taking one for the culture/movement” dynamics always leaves me angry and sick to my stomach.

Dolores Huerta is 96 years old. Throughout her entire career of civil and human rights activism, she has had to hold sexual abuse in her body at the hands of Cesar Chavez. For over 50 years. She birthed two children from this sexual abuse and assault, both of whom she had to hide her relationship and connection to “for the culture.” Countless other women have carried similar experiences of abuse at the hands of Cesar Chavez in their bodies for decades. It all comes back to these women feeling they had to put the movement before themselves, because society and culture had ingrained in them that speaking out against a man who positioned himself as the movement’s figurehead in real time would’ve jeopardized the work.

One of the saddest parts of that notion is that there is likely some truth to it.

These women would’ve likely been discredited and possibly attacked and ostracized by folx in their community. Their plight would’ve been perverted and twisted by hate-filled white supremacists. They likely would’ve been treated as if they were trying to destroy the movement they tirelessly dedicated themselves to. White U.S. America at the time would’ve conjured up all sorts of stereotypes and bigoted narratives to discredit the work these women were doing and to fight against any civil rights advancements by characterizing Cesar as a monster, but not for the reasons he should be viewed as such.

And the fact that we can’t sit here and say this wouldn’t happen or isn’t happening today speaks volumes about how women are viewed and disrespected in movements, even when they are the ones showing up and doing the heavy lifting.

Women shouldn’t have to constantly sacrifice themselves, physically, mentally, and emotionally, for toxic, abusive men and “the culture.” They shouldn’t have to fear for their safety or face ostracization for speaking truth to power and seeking accountability. And most importantly, women shouldn’t always have to fight an uphill battle to be believed when a man has abused and harmed them and others in their community.

Believe Delores.

Believe women.

Believe that the culture and the movement will survive and thrive if we remove cancerous individuals from the equation, even if they’ve positioned themselves as figureheads.

And take some time to evaluate why it’s so hard for so many of y’all to believe that way too many “decent” men are using that facade to do the opposite of decent things to those they deem vulnerable and lacking credibility.

Doing all of that believing and taking action?

THAT is “for the culture.”

Anything else is cosigning harm and abuse.

Read Delores Huerta’s statement here.

Read the NYT articleCesar Chavez, a Civil Rights Icon, Is Accused of Abusing Girls for Yearshere.

On Fishback and the Morality Police

Image description: a screenshot of a news posting regarding Florida Republican gubernatorial candidate James Fishback and allegation of him having an ongoing statutory rape/assault situation with a 16-year old. The news clip tries to paint the situation as a "secret relationship", which multiple commenters immediately debunked and factually stated as statutory rape.

TW: Mentions of pedophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, rape, and sexual abuse.

It will forever frustrate and anger me that an entire political party in a country with an archaic two-party system is absolutely loaded with pedophiles, hebephiles, ephebophiles, rapist, sexual predators, hatemongers, and closeted gay, lesbian, and queer individuals who have been indoctrinated by "Christianity" to hate themselves so much they weaponize that hate to harm others.

I'm not even shocked anymore when these creatures are outed for the horrible things they've done or are still doing. This is so normalized in the Republican party, and politics in general, that I'm not as shocked about them anymore as much as I'm shocked about how they keep getting re-elected and how many of y'all - who always stand up as the morality police whenver these horrible people pop up in the news cycle - will defend these creatures when the truth inevitably comes out about who they are.

That part says a lot about how some of y'all are fine with the things these people do as long as you possibly receive a benefit from them being in office.

Just so you know, supporting creatures so you can maintain comfort and privilege? That's also some creature-level behavior.

I mean, you probably don't care, but I wanted to make sure your moral compass got the news so you could navigate through that.

[Image description: a screenshot of a news posting regarding Florida Republican gubernatorial candidate James Fishback and allegation of him having an ongoing statutory rape/assault situation with a 16-year old. The news clip tries to paint the situation as a "secret relationship", which multiple commenters immediately debunked and factually stated as statutory rape.]

On Emails, Allegations, and Collective Engagement

TW: mentions of homophobia, pedophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, sex trafficking.

So... let’s talk about the elephant in the room.

At this point, I’m sure you’ve seen that one email from the 20,000+ Epstein emails alluding to an alleged sex act between two former presidents (one of them being the current acting president).

In less than 24 hours, that damn email has produced countless memes, skits, sketches, and jokes, and has become one of the hottest topics of conversation across the internet. We’ve all had us a nice lil’ laugh about it, our minds speculating wildly. I, too, got caught in the salaciousness of the situation, bringing it up to my wife a couple of times last night. My wife, being the person that she is, did not engage in the laughfest. Instead, she hit me with some realness.

We’re all participating in some groupthink homophobia, and it is not a good look, y’all.

Real talk? An alleged sex act between two consenting adults, regardless of their public personas and heteronormative nonsense they’ve both spewed over the years, is the most “whatever” part of this email leak at this point. Seriously. There are thousands of emails talking about sex trafficking, sexual abuse, and the assault of minors by prominent and wealthy people, y’all’s president likely being one of the people who either openly participated, knew all of this was happening, and decided not to stop it, or both. And yet here we all are, stuck on an alleged sex act between two cis men. We’re laughing about sexual relations between two men, likely because many of us are either unconsciously latching onto the piece of information from this info dump that is the least upsetting to us or taking this as another opportunity to engage in anti-gay rhetoric. Either way?

We’re collectively in the wrong, and many of us are doing inadvertent harm to our gay and queer friends, family, and neighbors.

Let’s not allow this distraction - because that’s precisely what it has become - to dominate our collective consciousness and pull us away from the fact that two of this country’s presidents were likely a part of a sex trafficking ring that catered to pedophiles, hebephiles, and ephebophiles.

And their victims deserve justice.

On Megyn and White Apologism

TW: mentions of pedophilia, sex trafficking, harm.

"I know somebody very close to this case…Jeffrey Epstein, in this person's view, was not a pedophile…He was into the barely legal type, like he liked 15-year-old girls…He wasn’t into like 8-year-olds…There's a difference between a 15-year-old and a 5-year-old."

What you just read came out of the mouth of weak-sauce woman of pallor and faux investigative journalist Megyn Kelly. Megyn Kelly thought this morning that, after seeing the dozens of email excerpts floating around out there as well as the mountains of evidence showing that Jeffrey Epstein was a sex trafficker and pedophile, today was the day to grace the world with this horrific take on her raggedy-ass podcast.

This right here is an impeccable illustration of one of the many instances where white supremacy, as a concept, action, and movement, has always been absolutely bonkers to me.

You see, white supremacy is an exercise in apologism: whiteness traumatizes, hurts, or kills someone, then expects to be forgiven after a half-hearted apology. And when the forgiveness doesn't come because forgiveness hasn't been earned or deserved? That's when people of pallor and systems of pallor begin spinning the situation, making up excuses for why the pallor colonizer terrorism and violence someone has been on the receiving end of "isn't that bad" and pushing that we all agree with that narrative. And if you don't get on board with the narrative? Gaslighting and violence are in your future. Don't believe me?

Go and ask anyone who isn't a part of the white supremacist culture model due to their melanin or beliefs, and they'll tell you a story about how this has played out for them or someone they love. Hell, some of us could write you a whole book of our experiences.

Let's keep it 100: there is no difference between a 5-year-old girl, an 8-year-old girl, and a 15-year-old girl when we're discussing acts of sex trafficking and pedophilia. NONE. NADA. No difference. No excuse. It is all abuse of vulnerable underage people, people we are supposed to protect from predatory acts of any kind. Period. No discussion.

Anyone who thinks otherwise and tries to spin these clear facts that I keep hoping we can all agree on to protect themselves, their own best interests, the interests of wealthy people who could give two craps about them who happen to have been long-time friends with horrible human beings they deify and admire, or the person they voted for to be President of the United States is just as dangerous as those initiating these acts.

And I don't apologize for saying that because there's nothing to apologize for.

Supporting harmful and toxic behavior and trying to "rationalize" it or explain it away is vile, disgusting, and a clear and present danger to others.

And it's one of the engines that keeps white supremacy running.

And so many of y'all are literally more than willing to continue being the gasoline that keeps the old jalopy moving.